#SelfLove Part 4 of 5

​Why waste precious time on something we feel isn’t going to grow? #FailedLove
My approach in the past for overcoming a failed relationship was, if I could overcome the letdown and disappointment caused by two of the most important people in my life (my parents), then it should be easier to overcome a failed relationship. Having this mentality worked for me and helped me to move on without thinking much about it.
 
Over time, I have grown mentally and psychologically and I’ve been able to deal internally with some of the things that affected the way I coped with specific circumstances in the past. I now have a different perspective on how I manage certain situations, #failedlove being one of them. I’ve learned that the healthier I am mentally and physically, the more I am able to see things from a healthier perspective and make better decisions. Dealing with the pain from my past helped me to get to a healthier mind state to make better decisions when dealing with circumstances that are more challenging...
 
For a while my life was consumed with finding love and companionship. I felt like I had to make up for lost time. When I started out on my journey of building a better life for my son and me, I put relationships on hold while I focused on being a mother, finishing college, and building a career. Establishing a serious relationship was just not in the cards for me during this time. After I finished Grad school, I felt like I needed to catch up, meaning find love. I had everything else, but that.
 
I don’t regret shifting my focus, because a better me means a better and healthier relationship. However, I realize now the importance of finding a good balance for the important things in life. Although my son, education, and success have always been my top priority, I’m proud to have finally gotten to a place now where I have a healthy balance for all the important things that matters to me, including #love.