Suffering sexual trauma is paralyzing… For so long I didn’t respect myself enough to fight back or stand up. I took the path of least resistance, because it was easier and, I thought, safer. It’s extremely important that boys, girls, women, and men command respect for ourselves, and do our very best to prevent anyone from violating us. Unfortunately, some circumstances are out of our control – but we can control how we move forward and live our lives from there on out.
Personally, I became overly defensive in demanding respect and not being violated. Unaware of what was happening within me, I became extremely sensitive, paranoid, and combative for the slightest reasons. I had to learn how to react cautiously and stay open-minded when feeling disrespected or violated. I began taking more time to think about situations from various angles. Conscientiously remaining calm and rational allowed me to see things differently, resulting in a better outcome.
It's very important that we do not remain in the mindset of when the trauma occurred as this could perpetuate the suffering and psychological abuse. Acknowledge your past and become aware of your present. Today, choose one negative thought that has held you captive for too long. Breathe…Release…and choose one positive thought to take its place. You’re on your way to freedom!